Post #8 Are We Addicted to Toxic Love?






We’ve all been there—staying in relationships that drain us, hurt us, or leave us questioning our self-worth. Why do we keep doing it? Some call it passion, others chemistry, but often it’s just familiarity. Dysfunction feels like home, and we mistake chaos for connection.

Toxic love isn’t always explosive. Sometimes it’s subtle—subtle manipulation, constant testing, or endless drama that leaves us exhausted. We convince ourselves that love is supposed to hurt a little, that compromise means sacrifice at the expense of our own needs. Over time, we forget what healthy love even looks like.

The hard truth? Many people remain in toxic relationships because healing and healthy boundaries feel unfamiliar. Letting go is scary, especially when we’ve invested so much emotionally. But staying keeps the cycle alive—for us and the people we love.

Breaking free doesn’t mean you don’t care; it means you respect yourself enough to choose growth, peace, and genuine connection. True love isn’t chaotic—it uplifts, supports, and challenges you in ways that help you flourish.

👉🏽 Do we chase toxic love because it feels familiar, or is it time to learn what healthy love truly looks like?


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