Let'z Talk, With Dr. H.

  Parenting is a responsibility, not a chore! Parenting in 2025 often feels more like logistics than love. Between work deadlines, sports practices, online classes, and social media, it’s easy to fall into the trap of “managing” our kids rather than intentionally raising them. We get them to school on time, make sure homework is done, and enforce rules—but are we actually guiding them to become thoughtful, resilient, and compassionate adults? Children need more than schedules—they need connection, presence, and examples of how to navigate life’s challenges. When every interaction is transactional (“eat this, finish that, go there”), we risk raising adults who know how to comply but not how to think , how to feel , or how to thrive . It’s not just about structure—it’s about teaching values, emotional intelligence, and self-awareness. It’s about letting kids fail safely, asking the hard questions, and listening without judgment. Too many parents mistake busyness for involvement, a...

What are families hiding? Families are supposed to be safe havens, but too often they are places where silence rules. Secrets—about abuse, addiction, financial struggles, or past trauma—are passed down like heirlooms, preserved under the guise of “family loyalty.” We tell ourselves, “What happens in this house stays in this house,” but that silence comes at a cost. When we hide pain, we don’t protect the family—we enable cycles of dysfunction. Children grow up internalizing unspoken rules, learning that emotions are dangerous and vulnerability is forbidden. Adults continue patterns of avoidance, fear, and resentment. Silence becomes a heavy inheritance, passed down from generation to generation. Breaking this cycle isn’t easy. It requires courage, honesty, and the willingness to upset the status quo. It means confronting uncomfortable truths, seeking help, and creating spaces where transparency is safe. Families can thrive only when members are allowed to speak, to grieve, to ques...

  For as long as we can remember, society has told us that “true love” looks like one person, forever. The fairy tales, the vows, the church ceremonies—they all reinforce the idea that monogamy is the natural, moral, and ideal way to live. But is it really? Or is it just something we’ve been conditioned to believe? When you examine history, the truth is often a lot messier. Ancient cultures often practiced polygamy. Some societies encouraged multiple partners as a means of survival, wealth accumulation, or as a matter of tradition. Even today, some cultures view polygamy as completely normal, while others call it a sin. Meanwhile, modern Western society preaches “soulmates” but is drowning in divorce rates, infidelity, and sneaky side relationships. So here’s the real question: if monogamy is “natural,” why is it so hard for so many people to sustain? Are we forcing ourselves into something our biology resists, or are we just too undisciplined to honor the commitment? Maybe the ans...

So here we are.  Let’z Talk.  Not whisper. Not sugarcoat. Not “pretend everything is fine” talk. I mean the kind of conversation that makes you laugh, side-eye, reflect, and maybe even squirm a little—because that’s where the truth lives. Here’s what you need to know about me: I’m not here to play it safe. I’m here to say the thing you were already thinking, but maybe didn’t have the nerve to say out loud. We’re going to talk about the stuff that matters—love, sex, relationships, careers, money, faith, trends—and yes, even the messy, complicated, and uncomfortable parts. Why? Because life isn’t lived in one lane. It’s a highway with exits you didn’t plan to take, detours you didn’t expect, and a few potholes you wish someone had warned you about. And if we’re going to navigate it, we might as well talk about all of it—honestly, openly, and without filters. Some days we’ll laugh until we cry. Some days we’ll cry until we laugh. And some days, you might just close this tab, sit ...

  Why Friendships Fail in Adulthood When we were kids, friendship felt easy. You met someone on the playground, shared a snack, and boom—you were best friends. But adulthood changes the math. Jobs, families, moves, and personal growth all tug at the threads of connection. Why adult friendships often fade: Misaligned priorities — one person’s all about the grind, the other’s about the good times. Unspoken resentment — those “little things” add up. Different growth speeds — sometimes you just outgrow each other. The truth? Friendships require as much intentionality as romantic relationships. If you value it, fight for it. If you’ve lost it, let it go with grace. Relationships evolve, and so do people. It’s not always about blame—it’s about seasons. Some friends are for a chapter. Some are for the whole book.

Post #3 — Dating in 2025 : Is Love Dead or Just Lazy? Let’s be real — dating today feels like ordering takeout on an app. Scroll. Swipe. Select. Ghost. Repeat. We’ve got terms like “ghosting,” “breadcrumbing,” “benching,” and “situationships” floating around like they’re normal. But let’s call it what it is: most of us are too scared to put in the work for love, or too distracted to even notice when it’s in front of us. Here’s the reality: Love hasn’t died. We’ve just replaced it with convenience. Relationships require time, risk, and intentionality — and that’s the exact opposite of what swipe culture promotes. We’ve confused instant chemistry with lasting connection. The truth is, old-school love isn’t outdated — it’s just rare now. Writing letters, making phone calls, taking the time to actually know someone… that’s how you build something that lasts. If you’re looking for real love in 2025, you’ll need to do what most people won’t: slow down, be intentional, and choose ...

Post #2 — When “I’m Fine” Is a Lie We’ve all done it. A coworker asks, “How are you?” You smile and respond, “I’m fine.” But you’re not fine. You’re tired, worried, frustrated, maybe even heartbroken. And yet… You default to the same two words. Why? Because “I’m fine” is the most socially acceptable way to say, “I don’t trust you with the truth.” It’s a verbal mask. It keeps things neat. It keeps things safe. The problem? Masks might protect you, but they also suffocate you. When you’re always “fine,” nobody gets to see the real you. And if nobody sees the real you, then your connections are surface-level at best. Here’s the truth: Being honest doesn’t mean oversharing with everyone. But you need somebody you can answer honestly to. Pretending you’re okay robs you of the support and understanding you deserve. So next time you’re tempted to say “I’m fine,” pause. Ask yourself: Am I protecting myself, or am I hiding myself? One leads to safety. The other leads to isolat...