Post #3 — Dating in 2025: Is Love Dead or Just Lazy?


Post #3 — Dating in 2025:

Is Love Dead or Just Lazy?



Let’s be real — dating today feels like ordering takeout on an app.
Scroll. Swipe. Select. Ghost. Repeat.

We’ve got terms like “ghosting,” “breadcrumbing,” “benching,” and “situationships” floating around like they’re normal. But let’s call it what it is: most of us are too scared to put in the work for love, or too distracted to even notice when it’s in front of us.

Here’s the reality:

  • Love hasn’t died. We’ve just replaced it with convenience.

  • Relationships require time, risk, and intentionality — and that’s the exact opposite of what swipe culture promotes.

  • We’ve confused instant chemistry with lasting connection.

The truth is, old-school love isn’t outdated — it’s just rare now. Writing letters, making phone calls, taking the time to actually know someone… that’s how you build something that lasts.

If you’re looking for real love in 2025, you’ll need to do what most people won’t: slow down, be intentional, and choose depth over dopamine.

Because love’s not dead — but it is waiting for someone willing to actually show up.

Having real conversations about real issues that others keep silent about. We are going to shake up something here. If it's worth talking about, you better believe we are going to talk about it.

Comments

  1. Let'z Talk, With Dr. H.August 17, 2025 at 6:35 PM

    This is an amazing topic. What do you think?

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  2. AnonymousAugust 17, 2025 at 6:49 PM

    You’re absolutely right; love is not dead, it’s just lazy. once a person stops stimulating us, we stop “loving” them. “you’re not interesting to talk to anymore” and we “ghost” them. On the other hand, putting in the real work to keep love alive, or keep the relationship alive is hard and we have to acknowledge that. But if you’re willing to “sacrifice” yourself in a capacity to make your person happy your relationship will soar and i’m not talking about sacrificing yourself to where you’re unhappy or not receiving what you deserve. i’m talking about putting in real work to make your relationship better, stronger.

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    1. LetztalkitoutAugust 17, 2025 at 9:10 PM

      You said something so key. "You have to put in the work." There will be hard times but you have to ask your self, how bad do you want it and is the love worth fighting for?

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  3. AnonymousAugust 18, 2025 at 7:20 PM

    I think it depends on the person whether dead or lazy. Some people have given up on love because they don’t want to do the work it takes for a relationship. Others are just lazy and want to do what is the easiest just to say they’re in a relationship

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    1. LetztalkitoutAugust 18, 2025 at 11:40 PM

      So, I have always heard that, if it's worth having, then it's worth fighting for. Is this actually true? Do we give our significant others grace in the relationship, or does what they have done to you trigger past issues from previous relationships, is that when we say it's dead?

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